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How to Tell Your Family You Can No Longer Care for a Senior Family Member


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When you reach your breaking point, you may decide it is time to hand over the caregiving reins to others.

Suggestions for Senior Caregivers from the Home Instead Team

There may be nothing more stressful than caring for an aging parent. There is the constant balancing act of handling your mom or dad and making sure your spouse and children are not neglected. Often, the last person to receive attention is you. As a result, you may struggle with feelings of resentment, depression, and failing health. When you reach your breaking point, you may decide it is time to hand over the caregiving reins to others.

Caregiver stress and burnout are on the rise as more and more families take over the responsibilities of caring for their aging loved ones. You do not have to live in a constant state of exhaustion and anger. When you call in for support from a Home Instead Senior Care Personal Support Worker, you can get the extra help you and your family are looking for. Our caring team can step in and alleviate your family’s stress and worry while ensuring your mom or dad’s needs are met.

Suggestions for Telling Your Family You Can No Longer be a Caregiver

Making the change from a primary caregiver may seem selfish to others or even yourself. However, it is sometimes the best decision for you and your health. It does not have to be an all or nothing decision though. Mom can still live her life in the comfort of her home with the help of a personal support worker from Home Instead Senior Care. Breaking the news to the family can be done with dignity when you use these tips:

  • Reframe your decision. You do not necessarily have to stop your caregiving duties completely. Instead, think of it as adjusting the type of care you can give.
  • Prepare ahead of time to discuss this decision with your family. Your choice will probably impact your siblings. You may discover a little resentment being revealed. Be prepared for old hurts and “baggage” to surface, too. The goal is to focus on the issue of Mom’s health, not everyone’s memories and hurt feelings from childhood.
  • Acknowledging your feelings is okay. You may feel guilty or think others are judging you for some perceived shortcoming. You may have some buried anger or resentment toward your siblings for their lack of help. Understand that when you set boundaries, you will probably have more ugly feelings to deal with, but you will be okay.
  • Offer some solutions. Your family may not know what the next steps are. With a little research, you can come to the table with options, including in-home or respite care, so not just one person has the whole burden of caring for an aging parent.

Dependable Senior Home Health Services to Help You Care for Your Loved One

Get relief from guilt and burnout when you take advantage of home care from a professional caregiver. At Home Instead Senior Care Etobicoke, our highly-trained and caring PSWs work with you and your family to make sure that your parent is adequately cared for. Share the burden and the joy of caring for Mom with our help.

Call us at (416) 239-2200 to schedule a no-obligation, in-home consultation. Learn more about the compassionate, quality senior care we deliver each day to families in our Etobicoke community.

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