Thanksgiving is just a few days away. Whenever Thanksgiving comes around, I like to take a moment to reflect on what it is that I'm thankful for. It is usually simple and straightforward (happiness, family, friends), but this year, it is harder than ever.
I feel trapped as I try to come up with a list of what I am thankful for. I'm writing this blog post this as my 3-month baby screams for attention, my 4-year-old weeps as I drop her off to day care, and of course, while my 87-year-old Mother is next door, confused as ever because of her recent diagnosis of Vascular dementia. It's hard to be thankful when I feel like my world is crumbling around me. I feel like I need to be in a million places at once to please everyone, which is obviously impossible!
This year, I am undoubtedly thankful for my health, my babies' health, and of course for my mom. Additionally, this year I am especially grateful for our new Caregiver Melinda from Home Instead. I am thankful because without her, Mom would be completely alone, or inevitably in a Long Term Care Home and we just weren't ready for that move yet. After dad passed away 6 months ago, mom's whole world got turned upside down. She wasn't the same; she was vulnerable and putting herself in danger. Online scams were not even the tip of the iceberg! Mom began wandering around our neighbourhood, and one night we couldn't find her for 6 hours. That was a big scare, and after reading up on some online articles and blogs, I realized that Home Instead was the next step for us.
Mom was naturally quite resistant to the Caregiver at first, she isn't used to having company over. However, the Caregiver was very warm and inviting, and she let mom know that she is there to be her companion and to help her around the house. Mom just couldn't refuse someone offering to do some housework! And now, 3 months later, they are the best of friends. Melinda is part of the family, and we trust her very much.
This Thanksgiving, no matter how frustrating and exhausting everything around you may seem, I urge you to dig deep and think about what you are truly thankful for.
Please reply to this blog post, I am truly interested in hearing other peoples' stories about how you're feeling this Thanksgiving!
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