Caswell Family

With Mother's Day right around the corner I find myself reflecting more than ever and remembering my life with my precious mom...my best friend. We would be planning our golf game together and hoping the weather would hold out so we could enjoy the links together with a bar-b-que to follow. As mom declined it was Putt-n-Bounce, and most recent just a bar-b-que. We were both grateful for the time spent together.

Mom has been gone for just over two months now. As sharp a lady as she was, her dementia slowly took over. Amazingly as progressive as the dementia was, she still knew me and recognized my voice. My daily efforts to see mom were taxing at times. I needed a break, I needed a rest, or I was off to the summer cottage or winter retreat in Nevada. I still wanted great care and companionship for my mom. With very few friends left and family living afar, I had to reach out. Home Instead was a name I had been given many years before when I needed help with transportation to appointments for my dad. I was still working then and at times I wasn't available to take him. I didn't use Home Instead for my dad that often, as my dad had all his faculties. He didn't need the companionship like my mom did. Looking back now, I am so glad I accepted the help from Home Instead.

Call it dumb luck if you like, but Home Instead found the PERFECT MATCH for mom. I had the opportunity to meet mom's caregiver numerous times at the home where mom lived. We talked and found we had mutual lives and interests. That brought us closer together and gave us a greater respect for one another. It gave mom and her caregiver the glue for a wonderful friendship to enjoy each other and their time spent together. I truly believe had they met many years before, they would have nurtured a friendship to the end. There was admiration from both sides. For mom's caregiver it became less about the pay cheque, and more about the friendship. She would have done anything for my mom. I am so grateful to her.

I am also grateful to have such a wonderful mom. My sister and myself were both adopted. We both know what it is like to be handpicked. For me, they couldn't have matched mom and myself up any better. As they say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. So I know how precious a match is, and it was for mom and her caregiver.

Home instead....mom's caregiver... gave me peace of mind to feel comfortable leaving mom in the hands of someone else who I knew would take good care of her. It also gave mom an outlet to see someone else and connect with the outside world away from me. I can't be everything to my mom. Even I get tired of ME sometimes. It is healthy to give your loved one external stimulation. If you can afford the help, it isn't always about the money. The pay off is rewarding.

So this year....this Mother's Day I will be thinking of mom in my every shot on the golf course. Maybe some day I will score a hole in one like she did. If I can be half the woman she was in every aspect of life....I have succeeded. Thanx mom....and thank you Home Instead for going above and beyond....a job well done.

With gratitude and sincerity,                                                                             

Di Caswell

Saskatoon

May 2017

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