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How Do You Provide Home Care for a Senior Who Does Not Want Help?

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By: Shawn Turcotte

Owner of Home Instead Senior Care Edmonton, CPCA

Caregiver helping a senior to prepare dinnerGrowing old is hard for our parents. Gone are the days of self-sufficiency when they were the parent and you were the child. Now they may struggle with a sense of helplessness as they feel like they are losing hold over who they used to be. For some, to accept help is to admit they are vulnerable. For others, they may just be too stubborn to reach out for help. Additionally, the costs of hiring help can be stressful.

There does come a time when your parent needs additional assistance, and you have to convince them that they should seek and accept home care help. With a few key strategies, you can get your loved one the home helper they need. At Home Instead Senior Care, we help caregivers and their aging loved ones make a safe and happy transition into old age.

Strategies to Provide Home Care When Your Senior Refuses

Empowering your loved one is critical to success in getting them the home help they need. Use these strategies to solidify your relationship and ensure your senior’s safety:

  1. The earlier you start talking about getting help, the better. During casual conversations, ask your mom or dad how they feel about getting older or hiring help so they can continue staying at home for as long as possible.
  2. Remain patient – you may be at this a while. As you converse with your parent, ask questions that are open-ended but try not to let the conversation veer off subject. You may have very similar conversations to get your answers, but it will be worth it.
  3. Be ready to probe deeper. Do not be afraid to ask deep questions to get to the root of the reason why your mom refuses help. Is she afraid of the cost of care or losing her independence? Try to remain empathetic and let your parent open up.
  4. Consider options and let your senior make choices. Your dad may already be struggling with feelings of losing his independence. Offer him the chance to make some decisions in the process of hiring help.
  5. Ask for back up from outsiders. It may help to have your parent talk to a professional, such as their doctor, a social worker, their pastor or priest, or even just a friend. Ask them to help you by suggesting that your mom or dad should hire outside help.

Build bridges with your senior when you use these strategies. It may take some time but you can get your loved one the home help they need. At Home Instead Senior Care Edmonton, we strive to help caregivers and their loved ones keep their relationships flourishing with our non-medical home care services. Our highly trained caregivers are ready to help your family enjoy what can be a stressful time.

Call us at 780.439.9990 to schedule a no-obligation in-home consultation. Learn more about the compassionate, quality home care we deliver each day to families in our community.


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