October 20, 2020

The 40-70 Rule: Communicating Touchy Topics

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Aging can present many touchy and tough issues for families. Starting the conversation before a crisis occurs could help avoid family tensions and problems.

As individuals age, questions often arise about living and financial choices, health, driving, dating and end of life. Many experts agree: by the time you approach age 40 and a loved one is around 70, you should have had the “talk” about issues so many families want to avoid. The Home Instead® network refers to this concept as the 40-70 Rule®, a program designed to start important conversations early, before a crisis occurs.

It’s never too late to talk, but starting today could make the road ahead a lot smoother. The 40-70 Rule tools and articles offer more information about the communications challenges many families face and tips to help deal with them.

Tools

40/70 Program

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The 40-70 Rule: An Action Plan for Successful Aging

The 40-70 Rule: An Action Plan for Successful AgingSM encourages individuals and families not only to start those vital conversations soon, but to finish them with a plan that can help take the guesswork out of aging. The plan encourages individuals of all ages to ACT (Assess, Consider, Talk) on their desires and wishes for the future, then put their plan into action.
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Interactive Conversation Tree

Many adult children of aging adults know how difficult it can be to talk with their parents about certain topics. Complete this interactive tree to learn more about the resources that can help you navigate touchy topics.

Articles

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Communication Plays Critical Role in Dementia Care

Dementia illnesses can pose special communication challenges for older adults and their family caregivers.

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Hurdles Often Stand in the Way of Communicating With Aging Parents

Barriers and hurdles can get in the way of candid family conversations about a variety of topics such as living and financial choices, health, relationships and dating, driving, and end of life.

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Seven Tips for Better Communication

Families can benefit from these tips for talking with older adults about touchy topics.

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