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How to Get Your Siblings to Pitch-In and Help Care for Your Aging Parents


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Expert Tips to Engage Your Family

Does this describe you? You are spent as a caregiver. You are drained emotionally, physically, and even financially, all because your siblings will not step up and help you take care of your elderly parents. Each day you go through your day of work, dinner, and caring for Dad, and each time your bossy sister calls up, you make your tongue bleed from biting it. Where did it all go wrong? As a caregiver to your aging loved ones, you know the work you do is valuable, but sometimes you would like to go out to lunch with friends instead of taking Mom to the doctor. If you are not careful, resentment can quickly build and before you know it, you ruin Christmas dinner because you explode in anger at your brothers and sisters.

Take steps now before you blow-up from frustration to get the support you need from your family. Remember that a personal support worker from Home Instead Senior Care in Hamilton stands ready to help your mother or father with household duties, companionship, or a myriad of other services so they can age at home with dignity.

4 Tips to Get Your Siblings Engage with Senior Care for Your Loved One

There is no need to dampen family celebrations with an emotional explosion because of your sibling’s lack of assistance. Here are four suggestions to get them to take on their share and ease your burden:

  1. Start with a conversation. You may want to give your brother the benefit of the doubt. He may not realize everything that you do for Mom. Your sister may see things getting done and think you don’t need help. You may need to show them what the typical week looks like. To do this, keep a journal or diary of everything you do for Mom, including all expenses you incur and the time you take off from work.
  2. Ask them what they can step in and do for your parents. Seeing things in black and white may make the picture clearer. Then it becomes more about getting things done for Mom than you begging for help. Suggest or ask that each sibling take on something they are well-suited to accomplish. For example, maybe your sister can spend an afternoon cooking several meals for your dad to heat up in the microwave throughout the week.
  3. If they diminish the problem, give them examples to the contrary. One of your siblings will probably tell you that Mom is just fine. Show them statements from her physician, physical therapists, or health aides that explain what Mom can and cannot do for herself.
  4. Schedule the talk at a neutral time and place. Try not to ruin a holiday meal. Instead, call your brothers and sisters together at a time and place where everyone can feel comfortable.

Avoid Letting Apathetic Siblings Get You Down

Let Home Instead Senior Care Help

After having a conversation with your family, make a plan that spreads the burden for everyone. A professional caregiver from Home Instead Hamilton is an excellent way to ensure your mother or father is well cared for when no one is available. We offer caregivers like you the respite you deserve.

Call us at (905) 521-5500 to book an in-home consultation. Our PSWs and trained caregivers provide compassionate, quality home care in the Hamilton, Dundas, Ancaster, Stoney Creek area.

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